I’ve been asked why do you keep saying [so-called] when talking about people! I’m hoping that the cognitive dissonace it not so ingrained that you will not be able to understand this simple concept. I had a conversation with a young lady who, after me stating that I was a brown man, said “No you are a black man.” At this point I normally would say “You need to go back to the 1st grade and review the lesson given to you about colors” or “Please take these crayons and take long look in the mirrow” Fortunetlly, this works if you belive that you are black or white. If the problem is just that these words have become the custom for brown people, because we have been using this term which saw it’s beginings use in the 1960’s, how much more can we expect that the cognitive dissonance of so called white people must be. What seem to happen in my case is that I lose favor with many of my relationships. Sometimes I even think some of them might think that I’m what one would call an uncle Tom.